Have you ever clung so tightly to a plan, a person or an outcome that you felt even more anxious, drained and disconnected after that? It's exhausting, isn't it? Trying to micromanage life, hold it all together, force things into one place. But what if I told you that surrender is not the same as giving up? It's actually the gateway to peace, trust and alignment. So let's talk about how to loosen your grip without losing your power. Hi and welcome back to another episode of the Flight to Fulfillment podcast. I'm your host, Ratika Seth, your life enhancement coach and the founder of the Freedom Divas Hub. And today we are diving into a topic I know so many of us wrestle with. Control. Control. The need to control outcomes. The desire to plan every step. The fear of letting go even when holding on is draining us. But here's what I have learnt. On my own journey control can feel safe at a lot of times at that very moment, but actual peace actual true flow actual fulfillment. It only comes when we surrender when we live in surrender and surrender does not mean giving up. Surrender does not mean that, you know, you're saying that, okay, fine, whatever will happen will happen. I give up. No, you don't give up. You only trust that life, the universe and your intuition are all connected. co-creating with you and whatever will happen will happen for your good and everything is working out in your favor. Life is happening for you. So if you have been holding on too tightly and if you're ready to breathe again, this conversation is for you today. These are the five ways you can actually surrender without giving up. Firstly, Get honest with yourself about what you cannot control. Okay. And that is the first step. If you want to surrender in a healthy manner, you need to acknowledge the difference between what you can influence and what you cannot influence, what you can control and what you cannot control. You cannot control people's opinions. You cannot control timing. You cannot control outcomes. You cannot control the future. But what you can control is the choice you make. What you can control is your energy. What you can control is your mindset. What you can control is your effort. Surrender starts with clarity. Ask yourself, what is it that you're trying to grip that is not yours to hold? Number two. Reframe surrender as strength and not weakness. You know, a lot of times many of us find this word very negative. We believe that letting go means we are weak. And we kind of force ourselves to control whatever is exhausting us. Now, true strength is actually saying that you trust yourself enough to flow with life, to go with the flow, even when you do not have all the answers yet. Surrender is not giving up your power. In fact, it is reclaiming your power because it's reclaiming the energy you have been wasting on things that are beyond your control. Number three, create space for the unknown. You know, we always fear the unknown, but letting go is not about releasing. It's about creating space. Why do we always fear the unknown? Why can't we create space to welcome what is coming our way, which we do not know yet? When we grip so tightly to one plan or to one outcome that we block life's other possibilities, we cannot welcome things that are coming our way. Surrender is opening your palms and saying, show me, show me what's possible beyond my limited vision. Bring it on, bring it on for me. I'm ready. I'm ready to embrace it, welcome it because I know whatever is coming is coming for my highest good. The unknown, however uncomfortable it may be, is also a place where miracles begin to happen. If you go with the flow, if you trust whatever is happening. Number four, anchor into the present moment. Control often lives in future. You know, why do you control things? Why do we try to control things? Because we feel, oh my God, I need to be in control of this because what if this happens? What if they leave? What will she say? What if I fail? What if I cannot accomplish? Everything is what if, what if, what if in a very negative perspective. Surrender brings you back to the now. You know, you take a deep breath. It's one breath, one choice you make, one grounded moment at a time. So ask yourself, where am I safe, whole and fully resourced? Right here, right now, because now is where you have full control. If you're talking about control, why do you want to control things in the future? Control the now. Be in the now. Number five, remember you are co-creating. You are not controlling. Letting go does not mean you have to sit back and do nothing. Like a queen. Oh, I have surrendered. Now I shall do nothing. No, it's not like that. It means you have to now take aligned action. You have to release attachment to the outcome. You know, it's like saying. Okay, I'm going to show up fully now and I'm going to trust the universe to meet me halfway. And trust me, the universe will meet you halfway the minute you surrender and yet take the step you need to take. Surrender is like a dance. You know, it's not a disappearance. You're still in the process. You're still taking your steps. You're still moving. You're still dancing. You're just not gripping so tightly that you miss the beauty along the way. That is what surrender is. So, you know, let's talk right now. Okay. Control may really feel familiar to you right now. But surrender is what is going to set you free. The moment you stop forcing life to happen on your terms, because trust me, trust me, you do not see what the universe sees. What's coming your way may be just far bigger than you ever imagined. So the moment you stop forcing life to happen on your terms, you actually create space for life to surprise you. How beautiful is life? Come on, if you're being surprised every day, you know, how would it feel if somebody you really love brings you gifts every day, showers you with surprises every day, you would love it. So love your life because your life is ready to surprise you every day. You just have to create the space for it. You know, you just have to align. You have to align with your soul, not just your schedule. You have to unfold yourself in ways you couldn't plan. Okay? Your heart has been craving for things. Allow your heart to get those things now. You don't have to grip so tightly. You don't have to carry all the burden all the time. You're allowed to loosen your shoulders. You're allowed to soften your heart. And you are allowed to fly, my dear. You are allowed to take that leap of faith and spread your wings and fly. Yes. So thank you. Thank you for joining me today. Thank you for sharing this space with me today. If today's message resonated with you, like, comment, share it with somebody who needs to hear this today. Subscribe to my podcast. Keep writing to me. you know, join my community, Freedom Divas Hub. Write to me and I'll have you join straight in. Until next time, this is me, Ratika Seth, your life enhancement coach, signing off for now, but asking you to loosen your grip, open your heart and remember, letting go does not mean losing yourself. It only means finding peace for yourself. On that note, love you all. See you the next time. Bye-bye.